|Advantages of anger||Advantages of control “being like Mike”|
|1. Makes me more competitive|
2. Gives me a boost
3. Keeps me from exploding
4. Can be used constructively
|1. I don’t dwell on the anger|
2. It’s a key to happiness
3. I get to move on
4. I can act constructively
5. I don’t hold a grudge
|Disadvantages of anger||Disadvantages of control “being like Mike”|
|1. It can be harmful|
2. It can hurt someone
3. I can hurt myself
4. It puts wear and tear on the body
5. It makes the situation worse
|1. People could step all over me|
2. I’d say, “Enough is enough”
3. They’ll continue to do things to annoy me
4. They won’t care how this will affect me
These seven steps represent points where we can intervene with aggression. Typically, we are inclined to see anger as immediate and ourselves as out of control. An alternative view is to see anger as energy that arises when our expectations conflict with reality. It is energy to deal with this discrepancy. And our most important decision is what to do with this energy. Breaking anger into steps can enable us to recognize control, and give us more choices regarding both intervention and prevention.
Beck, A.T. (1999). Prisoners of Hate. New York: HarperCollins Publishers.
Beck, A.T., Wright, F.D., Newman, C.F., & Liese, B.S. (1993). Cognitive therapy of substance abuse. New York: Guilford Press.